Mistakes shall be referred to as “mitsakes” for the purpose of this article. This is for the exercise of teaching myself that not everything needs to be perfect and I’m allowed grammatical and other mistakes.
Every week I take a concept or event so I can say good things about it. Even negative aspects can be helpful sometimes. Welcome to Appreciating.
It is borderline shameful how we scare and belittle each other for making mitsakes. It is even more shameful when we espouse the virtues of making mitsakes but immediately chastise each other for making them. It is because of these paradoxical statements that we confuse and alienate people, especially children.
The realization that you can in fact mess up, therefore, needs to come from the self. Well done on taking a step in the right direction and looking up an article like this.
Here are 6 reasons to make mitsakes and not be ashamed of them:
1. They help you make decisions.
I’m not sure how it is for others, but personally, I’ve found my best principles and habits come from realizing things myself. I’ve had instances of espousing beliefs without applying them to myself, e.g. everyone has the freedom to make mitsakes, and I’d support others doing it, but when it came to myself, I would, and continue to, dwell and blame and chastise.
I talked in an earlier post about how an article helped me stop being sad that I was sad. It was me realizing, or having an epiphany, that I shouldn’t beat myself up about being sad. I was then able to make decisions about schedule and principles.
Making mitsakes allows me to have experiences that trigger these epiphanies, and then the decisions that follow. I’ve had such experiences before as well.
2. They help you focus on wholeness.
I came across this picture yesterday that talks about people being scared of sadness. See below:
Mitsakes force you to look past the pursuit of happiness and focus on improving both your state of mind and your skillset, and hence go a ways in helping you feel focused and fulfilled.
3. They are excellent for growth.
Given how everybody talks about mitsakes and growth being connected, let’s for a moment forget their about-turn immediately after, and focus on that thread of connection.
Mitsakes teach you what NOT to do, and hence make you better at what it is you were doing. That’s how skills are learnt – you try until you get it right. If you give up after failing once, you don’t have the skill. Who loses then? You do. Letting a failure get to you stops you from exploring an avenue of potential where you could have achieved fulfillment.
4. They help you understand others…
Often, people are rude or say insensitive and hurtful things because they’re deflecting an insecurity or shortcoming they have. When you make a mitsake, that insecurity is forced out into the open and you can no longer ignore or deflect it. You HAVE to deal with it, and that makes you sensitive to other’s issues.
Being fallible yourself stops you from being hard on other people.
5. … and hence they keep you humble.
Nothing makes you a better person like humiliating or embarrassing yourself in a public situation – whether it be becoming a more confident public speaker or realizing that you are on no pedestal to be judging someone else.
Ironically, it is when you stop lashing out at people about not being nice to you, is when they start being nice to you. Niceness gets niceness more often than not, don’t let anybody tell you different.
6. They force you to love yourself.
Now this final point is a little iffy – it is something that a ton of people struggle with. Many people are unable to deal with mitsakes they’ve made or are afraid of making, and end up self-harming or even committing suicide. But those who do deal with the stigma of messing up and are able to sidestep the pressure rise above. They gain a confidence that pushes them into the throes of success. There is no person who is both successful and graceful who hasn’t ever had a failure.
How’d I do? Did I write mitsake enough that I don’t feel the need to constantly correct myself? Did I make any mistakes in judgment? Did you like the points with short explanations, or did you want longer justifications? Tell me in the comments below. 🙂