Primary reasons to talk – this seems like I’m reaching, right? That I’ve run out of content to talk about? Well, no. This article is intended to serve two purposes. One, to dispel the act of taking the power of speech for granted, and two, to help children and young adults, as well as people who have difficulty speaking, understand the reasons to invest time in the skill of speaking.
Every week I take a concept or event so I can say good things about it. Even negative aspects can be helpful sometimes. Welcome to Appreciating.
Here are the 4 primary reasons to talk:
To Initiate Action
Living in a society, we eventually have to interact with other people. We do it to get things, or favours, or business – things we need to improve our quality of life. The best way to begin working towards getting or achieving things is to either declare them or to ask for help from other people. Either of those initiates action – either by yourself or by the people asked.
To Create Opportunity
Good things come to those who ask. After initiating action, the process can go in many directions, each of which present different opportunities for gaining desired objects, or for experience. You might even uncover desires you didn’t know you had, and hence enrich and better your self and your life.
Opportunity can arise from factors beyond your control, but instead of waiting around for it, you can create it yourself or at least set yourself up so that it can find you easily. It’s easier to be seen if you’re on top of a hill than if you’re buried under a sea of dirt and other people.
To Dispel Misunderstanding and Assumptions
In initiating action and creating opportunity, you come into the attention of other people. Now you can happily go about your business without worrying about it, but people have a habit of misunderstanding and misinterpreting situations. If these people are important to you, it is good practice to talk to them.
It is possible to be TOO focused on a singular goal. Not everyone has the capacity to continuously pursue something without burning out like the billionaire CEOs of the world. Eventually, you have to step back and breathe, which helps you assess your situation. It is at this time when you see both your own misinterpretations, as well as of the people around you. Talking to someone helps you clear up both, as they may offer insight into your problem, as well as clear assumptions they had made about you.
*(Even a Mark Zuckerberg or an Elon Musk has limitations that they recognize and work around.)
To Relieve Energy and Stress
When you ARE too involved in your project or goal, you build up emotional energy. These can be both positive – such as a sense of achievement, or negative – such as frustration and anxiety. Whether it be positive or negative, the fact remains that the energy is suppressed within the body, and keeping it bottled up damages your internal functioning (not physically, though that can happen in extreme situations).
People who live alone often have a hard time managing their own emotional well-being. They aren’t necessarily anxious or depressed or otherwise negatively affected, but become more prone to it. I’ve experienced this personally, both with a friend, and now with myself. I’ve found that when I’m involved in a TV show or a comic or some media, if I verbally process my feelings, I feel better. E.g. when I watch wrestling and a performer pulls off a difficult move, I exclaim with an “Oh!” and that releases my breath and energy.
I theorize that to relieve energy and stress, you don’t need to necessarily talk to a person. I like talking to myself or by myself, no matter if other people think it is crazy behaviour.
I like to think the following:
That talking is a whole lot of breathing, and breathing is getting rid of a whole lot of oxidizing agents. Death comes from rotting of the organs till they cannot function, and oxidization is rotting. Long story short, releasing that energy via talking keeps you alive longer, which is maybe why people in happy families live longer.
What do you think?