Are Indians fragile? Are we special snowflakes? Is the Indian Ego too big for its own good? What is it about Indians in their 20s and 30s that makes them think so highly of themselves?
Note: I’m going to sound very holier-than-thou in this article.
There is a trend seen with a good portion of our country’s population – a trend of entitlement and self-importance. If you’re confused or already annoyed by what I’m insinuating, let me clarify – “Tu Jaanta Hai Mai Kaun hoon?“*
*Do you know who I am?
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We’ve heard that line in films – it’s become synonymous with entitled brats looking to get out of a bind. The image invoked is of some young brash dude wearing sunglasses at night being stopped by a traffic policeman for rash driving.
This behaviour is quite real. There is a certain section of the population that genuinely believes it is above certain things, or that it is owed certain privileges. I call this section the Roadies generation. It is the kind of degenerate that auditions for that show. Note that the production crew is very much opposed to that kind of behaviour, and it is a common theme in the show that they try to fix this state of mind in its contestants.
There are several manifestations of this Indian Ego. Here are some of them. I’ve framed them as internal monologues.
Use Cases of the Indian Ego
- Being above the traffic law – “Getting stopped by a constable is beneath me. Going to a police station to pay the fine is a mindless hassle that I couldn’t be bothered with.”
- Menial Labour – “I am above menial labour. Asking me to clean my room is a personal insult. Asking me to clean the streets is laughable.”
- Men towards Women – “When it comes to my girlfriend, I will speak for her, direct her, expect service from her, sexual or otherwise. And for female strangers on the street, well, you already know what the world thinks I’ll do, don’t you?”
- Women towards Men – “I will cherry-pick elements of western culture that suit my needs. I expect pampering – dates, gifts, free drinks and food, autonomy over myself and control over yours. Doing the things from the previous point are crimes, but it’s perfectly fine if the roles are reversed.”
What do you think? Have any more cases in mind? Leave a comment below. Try doing it as an internal monologue.
Possible Causes of the Indian Ego
I strongly believe the sense of entitlement stems from incorrect motivation to children. Our two primary sources of education – school and parents, are preoccupied with other things – other things being money.
With school and university, the motivation is twofold – to make money from student fees and other means, and to get students placed in high-paying jobs.
With parents – those who are not well off, want their children to make money. Those who came into money fairly recently want their children to have what they didn’t in their own childhood, and those who have money want their children to continue the good fortune.
When money is the motivation for 15+ years of a child’s life, you build a connection in their head. They are prone to believe the trials and tribulations of the school ecosystem are to be borne for a better future with financial autonomy. Resultantly, the moment one does come into money on their own, they believe they are free from schoolboy treatment.
Unfortunately, “schoolboy treatment” doesn’t go away – only the higher authority changes. You shift from the principal of the school to the Indian legal system. This is where the conflict of interest arises. A young person expects autonomy of action, and demands respect, but are expected to be within the confines of the law, the convoluted, crazy law.
Use Cases Against the Indian Ego
Let’s come back to Roadies. I’m thankful to the show and to the barrage of reality television that follows a similar pattern of aggressive and confrontational and entitled people. I’m thankful to them for showcasing that pattern, and I suspect a great deal of my peers are too.
Those shows have showed us behaviour that we want to avoid – the kind of disgusting filth that we want to keep far from our person. I believe that confrontational reality television has sensitized a generation of youth to shift their thinking from entitlement to effort. This is why you see a generation of young people starting up businesses across the country. This is why you see fantastic initiatives such as The Ugly Indian that bring to light initiatives to clean cities – people across the country are doing spotfixes of polluted areas in major metropolitan cities for no payment or incentive.
We now have a generation of strong, determined young people who DO NOT want to be a part of the Roadies Generation, and have rejected their Indian Ego, and we are all the better for it.
Do you agree? Leave a comment below with your opinion. Next, read last week’s Appreciating here – 4 Primary Reasons to Talk