Hi, and welcome to a new week at Thorough and Unkempt. Starting off again this week with #MicroblogMondays and the theme for this week is empowerment.
In the last three months of 2015, I’d decided to try and grow my hair out a bit, because I thought it would look good and it’d be slimming for my face too. What followed was a mess of bad trimming jobs and hair in the eyes and shedding. At the turn of the new year, I tried cutting it myself, but my nerves failed me and I only ended up removing a small portion of the jungle that was my head. I decided to just go get it cut, and cut to something nice.
I usually go for a cheap haircut – it’s what guys do, as I’ve been told – no need to waste money on unnecessary “girly” grooming. You should be able to get a haircut and a shave within 50 rupees.
This time, I looked into better places, and found one near my house. I’ve been to high-end places before, and have had different styles done, but this time felt different… for some reason. Perhaps it was because I did some research. Perhaps because I discussed everything I had in mind with the hairdresser guy, and kept providing feedback as he worked, or set a plan for next time. Either way, at the end, I was very happy with what I had.
At that moment, I felt empowered. It sounds silly, I know. But at the time, I felt like I understood (a little) what some women mean when they say that dressing a particular way is empowering. It was a moment of control, and going against something you’ve been taught your entire life – that, as a boy, I shouldn’t have to pay particular attention to grooming, or that I shouldn’t get a particular haircut, or dress a particular way, or get tattoos.
Moments like those are what spur action, and I’ll discuss empowerment more in this week’s Appreciating, which comes out on Wednesday. Stay tuned, and thank you for reading!
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