#MicroblogMondays Week 2, 2016

Week 2 of #MicroblogMondays – kicking off the week of “empowerment” with an act of empowerment of my own.

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Hi, and welcome to a new week at Thorough and Unkempt. Starting off again this week with #MicroblogMondays and the theme for this week is empowerment.

In the last three months of 2015, I’d decided to try and grow my hair out a bit, because I thought it would look good and it’d be slimming for my face too. What followed was a mess of bad trimming jobs and hair in the eyes and shedding. At the turn of the new year, I tried cutting it myself, but my nerves failed me and I only ended up removing a small portion of the jungle that was my head. I decided to just go get it cut, and cut to something nice.

I usually go for a cheap haircut – it’s what guys do, as I’ve been told – no need to waste money on unnecessary “girly” grooming. You should be able to get a haircut and a shave within 50 rupees.

This time, I looked into better places, and found one near my house. I’ve been to high-end places before, and have had different styles done, but this time felt different… for some reason. Perhaps it was because I did some research. Perhaps because I discussed everything I had in mind with the hairdresser guy, and kept providing feedback as he worked, or set a plan for next time. Either way, at the end, I was very happy with what I had.

At that moment, I felt empowered. It sounds silly, I know. But at the time, I felt like I understood (a little) what some women mean when they say that dressing a particular way is empowering. It was a moment of control, and going against something you’ve been taught your entire life – that, as a boy, I shouldn’t have to pay particular attention to grooming, or that I shouldn’t get a particular haircut, or dress a particular way, or get tattoos.

Moments like those are what spur action, and I’ll discuss empowerment more in this week’s Appreciating, which comes out on Wednesday. Stay tuned, and thank you for reading!

P.S. If you like the featured image, let me know with a comment below. I’ve designed all 5 images for the weekly features, and am fine-tuning them. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated!

  • They say that you dress per your next level and hair does complete one’s dressing. VT, my husband also finds the 50 bucks place but he says the guys knows how to cut 😛
    I like the idea that you are writing on a theme each day of the week. Are you going to add this post to the #MicroblogMondays linky? If not, let me know. 🙂

    • Vaibhav

      Even I had a guy who knows how to cut. 😛 But I just felt better with this one, because higher-end guys are flexible and open to styling.

      Let’s see on the theme thing. It’s a little difficult unless I pre-write a ton of stuff.

      Could you explain that last bit? I haven’t pinged back to anything.

      • See this http://www.stirrup-queens.com/
        #MicroblogMondays is a concept by Melissa Ford and I also write these microblogs almost every Monday. The posts are 8 words to 8 sentences long and then I post the link on her site. It’s good to read others there and of course develop a sense of community and learn something new.

        Here are my #MicroblogMonday posts – http://happinessandfood.com/tag/microblogmondays/

        • Vaibhav

          Ah okay. I did get the inspiration from your blog, and I googled it to find Melissa’s site. I missed the part where she asks us to link below.

          I’ll be sure to do a little more reading. 🙂

  • Mel

    I completely agree even though I am terrible about getting haircuts. When you’re wearing clothes that you love or you know that you look good, it changes the way you talk, move, stand.

    • Vaibhav

      Wouldn’t you agree that a good haircut complements an outfit?

      I’ve been actively working on dressing better as part of my New Year plan, and I’ve noticed a sizeable difference in my behaviour. 🙂

  • It’s amazing what a difference something so like that can make in your attitude! I did the home-haircut thing for many years, and the few times I splurged on a “real” cut, I felt afterwards like I could take on the world! I agree, it’s very empowering. 🙂