Narcissism is Good For You

#MicroblogMondays February 15th, 2016 – Narcissism is good for you and is key in self love. A healthy narcissistic worldview manages your emotions.

For the past few months, most times when I look into a mirror, I can’t help crack a smile. Whenever my face appears rested and fresh, or my hair game is strong, or my body looks toned, I smile, and I feel happy despite whatever I’d been feeling prior to that.

I’ve been told that I am not a good-looking person, but am very “presentable” – my grooming has always been to be presentable. Over the last few years, I’ve taken control of my look – my hair, my skincare, and most recently, my clothing.

I’m not fashion-forward – I’m actually fashion-f**ked. Friends and relatives not aged more than 30 have told me I dress too old for my age. It’s the result of an obsessive father who always insisted on choosing the clothes – both for me and my sister. Growing out of that, and wresting control from him, has been an identity-forming experience for both of us.

One of my thirteen New Year’s Resolutions / Year Plan facets has been to improve the way I dress. In January, I purchased a few new pieces of clothing that I’m proud of. However, I realize now that I consulted both my parents over Whatsapp – displaying a lack of confidence in my choice.

That’s okay because I’m not used to buying clothes for myself (that will see more than casual usage). However, the next set of clothes I get made WILL be an autonomous choice, whether I like it or not. I bought some shoes, and am really happy I didn’t consult anybody, and want to continue this trend.

As I take control of my appearance, getting a fashionable haircut, good clothes, and working on losing weight, I find myself feeling better about myself. I’m slowly learning that the dichotomy of characteristics we are taught in our childhood is not as rigid as it seemed. Traits deemed “negative” – sadness, selfishness, and indeed, narcissism, among others, are not to be avoided entirely. Every attribute is required in some quantity, and my narcissism is necessary for me to love myself and bring myself out of a funk every so often.

This article is “I” heavy, which is supposedly an indicator of egoism, egotism and narcissism, and that’s okay.

Do you engage in narcissistic activites? Are you a mirror lover, or a bathroom singer, or a preener? Leave a comment below. 🙂

P.S. I found the featured image via Google Images. Traced it back to who I THINK is the original creator – Margaret Shaw-MacKinnon. Check them out. Thanks for the image!

Letters to Myself 4

Letters to Myself 4 is an exercise in forcing myself to step back and look at Vaibhav Gupta. I use it to track what I’ve done while learning to love myself.

Hey Vaibhav,

It’s been a while since I last wrote to you. Nevertheless I want to keep this short.

You’re ill. Take care of yourself – it’s the mark of an adult who can handle his business by himself despite sickness.

You retired Fiction Friday without warning. I support the decision, chiefly because 5 posts a week was taking its toll on you. 4 is good enough, and you want to stay motivated enough to do this for the rest of the year. You should trim fluff that is hard to write and only acts as an obligation – it ends up being a drain of willpower rather than a motivation. The Life is a Game article said as much about willpower being the intangible.

Perhaps you could write fiction and publish it intermittently in its entirety. It’s been a while since we wrote a big juicy story.

Toastmasters was fun these two past events this week. It’s great improv practice as well. You should seriously consider joining for real.

Work is picking up too, so all in all, decent week.

You had that fleeting moment of panic on the stairs on Thursday. You should write about it. Also, it’s time to set some goals again. Not making lists really slows us down. Get to it.

You caught up with sleep this week, which was really necessary. Our body shut you down pretty quickly on Sunday and on Thursday, so you better start listening. A productive life starts with eating, sleeping, and exercising on time.

Your schedule is outdated. Take the time to sit down and reevaluate. I’d insisted we do it on a weekly basis, but neither of us has done that.

That’s about it. Get well soon.

In tune with you,
Vaibhav.

P.S. Links: Life is a Game.

6 Reasons To Make Mistakes | Appreciating

Appreciating 2016-02-04 – Talking about making mistakes and how they’re okay and even beneficial to you – put down in 6 reasons.

Mistakes shall be referred to as “mitsakes” for the purpose of this article. This is for the exercise of teaching myself that not everything needs to be perfect and I’m allowed grammatical and other mistakes.

Every week I take a concept or event so I can say good things about it. Even negative aspects can be helpful sometimes. Welcome to Appreciating.

It is borderline shameful how we scare and belittle each other for making mitsakes. It is even more shameful when we espouse the virtues of making mitsakes but immediately chastise each other for making them. It is because of these paradoxical statements that we confuse and alienate people, especially children.

The realization that you can in fact mess up, therefore, needs to come from the self. Well done on taking a step in the right direction and looking up an article like this. Continue reading “6 Reasons To Make Mistakes | Appreciating”

Letters to Myself 3

Letters to Myself is an exercise in forcing myself to step back and look at Vaibhav Gupta. I use it to track what I’ve done while learning to love myself.

Dear Vaibhav,

Well done. I’m surprised, but well done! You changed my mind, this week, quite literally.
Continue reading “Letters to Myself 3”

Letters to Myself 1

Letters to Myself is an exercise in forcing myself to step back and look at Vaibhav Gupta. I use it to track what I’ve done while learning to love myself.

Dear Vaibhav,

Hope you’re doing well. Here you are, with the last new feature that you wanted to introduce to the blog. But I have my doubts with this one. Continue reading “Letters to Myself 1”