Shalom Abraham | #TalkbackTuesday

#TalkbackTuesday number 52 – with Shalom Abraham, and we talk about writing, event management, and relationships.

Shalom Abraham | #TalkbackTuesday

Hi, and welcome to #TalkbackTuesday. This week’s interview is with Mr. Shalom Abraham. See his interview below.

Talkback Tuesday is a weekly interview with everyday people. It is always inspirational to look into the life of another person, and realize it is just as complex and large and confusing as your own.

1. For the readers, who are you, what do you do, and what is your current side project?

Hi, my name is Shalom Abraham, I am a 24-year-old event manager, an aspiring writer, and small-time motivational speaker.

2. You said you’re an aspiring writer. What attracts you to writing, and what kind of writing project do you hope to finish writing in a year’s time?

Oh wow, that’s a good question. So there are about 7 billion odd people in the world right now, and I like to believe that no 2 people have the same story to tell. The very tone and nature in which they say “Hi!” or “Life is going good” intrigues me to find out more, and learn more about that person as an individual.

I’d like to believe that we are all writers of our own stories. Most times we tend to believe that our lives aren’t as good as the next guy’s or that our childhoods could have been better. We all struggle with it; I do too.

Drums | Shalom Abraham #TalkbackTuesday
Shalom insists he’s not an old man who gives out free advice. To prove it, here he is behind some drums.

So in my conversations, I try and get to know the person a little more, find out about what makes that person him/her and in turn, let them know that there is a purpose and that their story is as inspirational as the stories of our leaders and other famous people.

Within a year’s time, I would really like to finish a project on the emotions we feel every day. [I want to] let people know that it is okay to be angry or sad or worried. That regardless of it all, to keep your head above the waves and learn to overcome the obstacles life throws at us.

It might take more than a year as I have to face my own giants. But I am getting serious every day about practicing what I preach!

3. Talk to me about your event managing work, and your speaking work. Do those overlap often? What do you find most exciting about event management?

I moved to Mumbai about 2.5 years ago, love the energy and vibe this city has. I was in Chennai before and over there, I used to speak to a younger crowd of engineers and arts students, sharing with them my story and my life and listening to what they are going through.

Now I do it over calls on and off, whenever I am able to. I have a few people who keep in touch on a regular basis. It is quite encouraging to see life and the world through their eyes.

Does it overlap? No, mainly because I haven’t taken to speaking on a larger platform or a larger crowd. But I try and make time for those people who are accountable to me, to encourage them and to hear them out.

Sometimes people, regardless of how old or young they are, just want to be heard.

For me, the most exciting thing about event management is the people and the culture. Man, India so full of vibrant cultures and the show never stops.

I love that people are so strongly connected and proud of it. There are various kinds of events and seeing like-minded people, people who enjoy the same thing coming together and enjoying themselves – that, my friend, is simply beautiful.

4. So you work closely with people and you do your best to build them up. What 3 key pieces of advice do you have for building good relationships with people?

Yes, I most certainly do. I’m starting to realize that people aren’t really being appreciated. Let them know that they are important, be it your parents or a close friend, the cab driver or the janitor in your office.

3 pieces of advice I’d give:

  1. Appreciate people, big or small, regardless of what job role they have or don’t have. If you’ve crossed paths with someone, I’m sure there’s a reason for it. I believe that God puts people in our lives so that we can learn from them and so that we can also teach them.
  2. Listen to understand and not to respond. I say this a lot and I try and apply it everywhere. Listen to someone when they are talking. We have this problem of wanting to be Dr. Fixit in every situation, and sometimes the other person only wants you to listen. S/he doesn’t want you to fix the problem, they know that it will be ok, you don’t have to tell them that. Be with them and hear them out, don’t brush anyone off. You don’t know how that person can influence and help you to become a greater you.
  3. Love like there is no tomorrow. I recently went out of town, and I missed saying bye to a dear friend of mine. And I didn’t really think much about it until later when she told me that she was really upset that I didn’t meet her. I got to meet her again, but think about if I couldn’t meet that person again – I know it would haunt me, so love people, let them know!I think we find it hard to tell people “hey, you’re an amazing person and I really enjoy being around you.” But when we do, and when we share life and love with that person, it is the start of a ripple effect. He or she will do it to the next person and to the next person and so on. Never miss an opportunity to let someone know that they are important and that they are loved.
  4. If I may add just one more: speak your mind. Even shrinks find it hard to untangle the core of your thoughts and understand what you need – speak it out.
    It may or may not hurt someone, people may or may not like it, but it will be the truth. Yes, you need to check the environment and setting but always speak your mind. If something disturbs you, say it.I have a few truth speakers in my life, when I go off track I’ve given them the permission to pull me up and say “hey, maybe this is not how it needs to be done” or “hey, you’re heading in the wrong direction.

5. Fantastic. Finally, what would you like to leave the audience with? What can they explore?

Live life to the fullest and take hardships as a stepping stone to get to the goal which you want to achieve.

Here’s the idea I want to leave with the readers: Reverse countdown

When you decide you want to do something, count 5-4-3-2-1 and jump on to doing it. You’ve already decided in your mind that you want to do something. Now you just have to get out and do it.

I think Morgan Freeman said,

“The bus rides every day. We just got to get on it.”

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Chiradeep Roy #TalkbackTuesday
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